Do you feel unfulfilled? Not sure about what you should be doing in life? Or if you’re even on the right path?
You are certainly not alone. I get it. I’ve been there too.
Like so many people I was taught to go to college and find a job with a salary that paid the bills and then some. Do what everyone else is doing. Follow the herd. But I felt like a robot going through the motions. I felt far from fulfilled.
And you may be thinking to yourself—there are so many options what if I pick the wrong one? What if I study to become a doctor/lawyer/accountant/fill-in-the-blank and I then realize I really don’t want to be one? Or I am bored in my current job and I want something else.
Here’s the deal you have many different roads to go on in your life. It’s not just about focusing on ONE thing. There is no one purpose that makes your life the example you want to set for others, there are many.
Think about it. How could there not be? You are made up of so much—you could be a sister, mother, best friend, colleague not to mention a whole list of different skills and talents. You could be great at brewing up a mean turmeric almond milk latte.
And they can change over time. Your interests and skills can take you different places and drive you to a different purpose and purposes. It’s a journey that opens up to many different roads to choose from. You’re in the driver’s seat—you have the power to shift lanes and take a different route. You don’t need to stick to just one road.
You may be thinking, ok I get it but I still don’t know what comes next. I feel stuck and unfulfilled. That’s actually perfectly ok. It’s what you do about it that counts. Here’s how to find out your purpose(s) and what fulfills you.
- Assess your situation. Break it down into three parts:
- List 3 things you like or love to do. It could be in any area of your life like career, relationships, finances, health, environment, etc. It doesn’t have to be an income-producing activity, either. Here are some examples:
- Meeting new people and having conversations with them
- Volunteering at an animal shelter
- Spending time in nature hiking
- List 3 things you are good at (if that’s hard, think about what people have complimented you on or told you are good at):
- Thinking up out-of-the-box solutions to problems
- Interior design
- List 3 things you would like to be good at:
- Public speaking
- Choose 2-3 things from your list of 9 things above and start going after them. If it’s just one thing you want to test, then go ahead. Or if you feel ready to go after 2-3 simultaneously, then by all means go for it! Start knocking on doors. Start exploring how to make that thing you love/like/are good at be a bigger part of your life. Take baby steps it’s not about moving mountains here. If you are interested in skating, look up skating rinks in your areas or skating groups on meetup or Facebook or at the rink. Carve out some time in your calendar, sign up, commit to trying it out and see how it goes from there.
Remember to keep moving and allow things to happen. Say yes and take a chance. Even when something doesn’t work out that’s ok. Just move onto the next thing on your list and go in another direction. Don’t be afraid to let things go. Sometimes it’s done its time and it’s time to move on.
Don’t say you are a failure or you’ve let yourself down. If something fails it’s because you need to move on and take another turn. They aren’t failures. They’re part of the journey, that give you lots of experience, wisdom and good stories to tell your grandkids one day.