How To Stop Feeling Like A Robot Going Through The Motions

How To Stop Feeling Like A Robot Going Through The Motions

Do you feel unfulfilled? Not sure about what you should be doing in life? Or if you’re even on the right path?

You are certainly not alone. I get it. I’ve been there too.

Like so many people I was taught to go to college and find a job with a salary that paid the bills and then some. Do what everyone else is doing. Follow the herd. But I felt like a robot going through the motions. I felt far from fulfilled.

And you may be thinking to yourself—there are so many options what if I pick the wrong one? What if I study to become a doctor/lawyer/accountant/fill-in-the-blank and I then realize I really don’t want to be one? Or I am bored in my current job and I want something else.

Here’s the deal you have many different roads to go on in your life. It’s not just about focusing on ONE thing. There is no one purpose that makes your life the example you want to set for others, there are many.

Think about it. How could there not be? You are made up of so much—you could be a sister, mother, best friend, colleague not to mention a whole list of different skills and talents. You could be great at brewing up a mean turmeric almond milk latte.

And they can change over time. Your interests and skills can take you different places and drive you to a different purpose and purposes. It’s a journey that opens up to many different roads to choose from. You’re in the driver’s seat—you have the power to shift lanes and take a different route. You don’t need to stick to just one road.

You may be thinking, ok I get it but I still don’t know what comes next. I feel stuck and unfulfilled. That’s actually perfectly ok. It’s what you do about it that counts. Here’s how to find out your purpose(s) and what fulfills you.

  1. Assess your situation. Break it down into three parts:
  • List 3 things you like or love to do. It could be in any area of your life like career, relationships, finances, health, environment, etc. It doesn’t have to be an income-producing activity, either. Here are some examples:
    • Meeting new people and having conversations with them
    • Volunteering at an animal shelter
    • Spending time in nature hiking
  • List 3 things you are good at (if that’s hard, think about what people have complimented you on or told you are good at):
    • Thinking up out-of-the-box solutions to problems
    • Singing
    • Interior design
  • List 3 things you would like to be good at:
    • Public speaking
    • Cooking
    • Skating
  1. Choose 2-3 things from your list of 9 things above and start going after them. If it’s just one thing you want to test, then go ahead. Or if you feel ready to go after 2-3 simultaneously, then by all means go for it! Start knocking on doors. Start exploring how to make that thing you love/like/are good at be a bigger part of your life. Take baby steps it’s not about moving mountains here. If you are interested in skating, look up skating rinks in your areas or skating groups on meetup or Facebook or at the rink. Carve out some time in your calendar, sign up, commit to trying it out and see how it goes from there.

Remember to keep moving and allow things to happen. Say yes and take a chance. Even when something doesn’t work out that’s ok. Just move onto the next thing on your list and go in another direction. Don’t be afraid to let things go. Sometimes it’s done its time and it’s time to move on.

Don’t say you are a failure or you’ve let yourself down. If something fails it’s because you need to move on and take another turn. They aren’t failures. They’re part of the journey, that give you lots of experience, wisdom and good stories to tell your grandkids one day.

3 Ways to Meditate Without Meditating

Too busy in your day to meditate? I hear you. When we have a lot on our plate or something disrupts our routine a meditation class or practice can easily go by the way side. Or you may have never practiced it in the first place and that’s fine.

Here are 3 simple, easy techniques that can give you the same great benefits of meditation like improved concentration, more energy and increased happiness without really doing it.

 

  1. Breathe gently and slowly through your nose.

 

Sounds counterintuitive right? It is not uncommon to be told to breathe deeply and especially through your mouth. However, mouth breathing and deep breathing aren’t the answers. In fact, according to Patrick McKeown, author of The Oxygen Advantage, breathing through the mouth using just the upper chest increases our flight or fight response and makes us more agitated and stressed.

 

Focus on breathing through your nose gently instead. Try this:

  1. Place one hand on your stomach and one hand on your chest.
  2. Focus on the airflow in and out of your nose. No need to force your breathing or count the number of seconds.
  3. Aim for gentle, slow breathing.
  4. Slow it down to the point where you feel air hunger because air hunger signifies that CO2 has increased in the blood, which is actually a good thing.

The body breathes to get rid of excess CO2 so the air hunger you feel when you do this exercise doesn’t mean your oxygen levels have dropped. When you work on slowing down your breathing, CO2 increases in the blood and your blood vessels open up, making you feel warmer.

 

When to do it: in front of the TV, in the shower.

 

  1. Use Becalm Balls.

 

These little squishy balls called Becalm Balls are based on carniosacral therapy – a technique used to improve the functioning of the membranes and cerebrospinal fluid that surround and protect the brain and spinal cord.

 

The balls induce something called a “stillpoint”. A stillpoint essentially shuts off your body’s response to stress. Your central nervous system and its fluids switch to a state of calmness from its usual state of alertness. It also helps ease muscle tension and helps improve the functioning of your nervous system.

 

When to do it: in the morning when you hit snooze or right before you go to bed. Just place the balls under your head at the same level as your eyes. You can start slow by just using it for 3-5 minutes a day and work yourself up to more if need be.

 

  1. Unleash the power of prayer.

 

Spiritual meditation meaning prayer was actually found to be more effective than secular meditation, according to a study done by Wachholtz and Pargament at Bowling Green State University. They found that the group who practiced spiritual meditation had greater decreases in anxiety and more positive mood, spiritual health, and spiritual experiences.

 

Say a simple prayer out loud, in your head or anyway you want to do it. You can ask for help, healing, happiness or more health in your life. Anyone can do it regardless of your background or beliefs.

 

When to do it: in the elevator, on your commute to work, in front of your computer- any time of day works.

 

If you’re interested in learning more ways to relax download your free guide “7 Quick & Easy Ways to Relax” here.

Can’t focus? 3 Fixes to Get You Back on Track

Can’t focus on your tasks? Or what your colleagues and especially what your boss is telling you?

 

The answer to getting your focus back up could be in your gut. It goes without saying our gut is our second brain.

 

There is a two-way communication between your brain and gut. Each gives and receives feedback to the other – the good, the bad and the ugly. The network of nerves in the gut is so large that is second only to the brain.

 

Your gut also produces most of your body’s neurotransmitters like serotonin, acetylcholine, and GABA – all essential for your brain. Acetylcholine is a neurotransmitter that helps in learning and memory and GABA has a calming effect. More specifically it relieves anxiety, improves sleep AND improves focus.

 

If your gut is scrambled your brain will be too.

 

Here are 3 things you can do to have a healthier gut:

 

  1. Avoid Gluten. Next time you’re reaching out for that bagel, cookie or slice of bread think twice.

 

According to Dr. Alessio Fasano of Harvard, the world’s leading expert on gluten non-celiac gluten sensitivity is a real  ailment. Anyone who eats gluten is not doing their gut a favor. It creates leaky gut and inflammation regardless. Even if you are not celiac, gluten isn’t something you should eat regularly.

 

The Fix: Healthy, gluten-free foods are the way to go. Processed gluten-free products are best to avoid since they are chock full of sugar, preservatives, and additives. Here is a really easy gluten-free brownie recipe I absolutely love. It includes almonds and cacao full of great antioxidants like magnesium that is so good for your energy levels and brain.

 

Yummy Gluten Free Brownies

Total: 35 min

Yield: 9 brownies

 

Ingredients

1/2 cup cocoa powder

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

1/4 teaspoon sea salt

1 pinch ground cinnamon

1 cup almond or cashew butter

1/3 cup maple syrup

2 tablespoons melted butter or coconut butter or oil

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

2 large eggs

Directions

Preheat the oven to 325 degrees F. Line an 8-inch square baking pan with parchment paper and spray with nonstick cooking spray.

In a large bowl, mix together the cocoa powder, baking soda, salt, and cinnamon. In a separate bowl, mix together the almond butter, syrup, butter, vanilla and eggs. Mix the wet into the dry and then fold in the walnuts. Pour the batter into the prepared baking pan. Bake until the brownies are firm but still soft in the middle, 20 to 23 minutes.

 

  1. Chew your food. Do you wolf down your food just so you can get back to what you were doing? Take a good hard look at your chewing.

 

According to a study those who chew less, allowing larger particles to pass through the body, provide opportunistic bacteria and fungi with a source of fuel during their transit.

 

Digestion starts in the mouth with your saliva. It helps break down your food especially the carbohydrates. It’s not just about WHAT you eat it’s HOW well your body absorbs it. Make it easier on your stomach and small intestine and chew your food well. It also makes your food more alkaline, which creates less gas.

 

The Fix: Give your gut a break and chew every mouthful of food at least 30 times. Sound hard? Start with at least 15 and work your way up. Enjoy your meal and your food. Savor the flavors and textures in it. Your gut will thank you for it.

 

 

 

  1. Keep Your Phone Away from Your Stomach (and any other WiFi device).

 

Why? The answer lies in something called EMF (Electro Magnetic Field) radiation. What is considered a “safe” amount of EMF exposure from WiFi devices is holding your phone 1” from your head for only 6 minutes a day. And by the way, you have to be a 220 lbs 6”2’ man.

 

Have you met someone who fits these criteria? I sure haven’t.

 

Not only has EMF radiation been known to weaken the lining of your blood-brain barrier, allowing more toxins and pathogens into your brain it is very likely that it is doing the same to your gut.

 

What we know from sure from studies is that EMF signals are very disruptive to the delicate beneficial bacteria in your intestines (gut flora). They slow down their growth, while possibly making the viruses, superbugs and harmful bacteria that are trying to take over even stronger.

 

The Fix: Do you carry your phone near your waist? Consider putting it on airplane mode –when possible – to avoid radiation. Also, create as much distance as you can (preferably at least 1 foot) from your phone, tablet or computer and gut when it makes sense. Another way to protect yourself if you’re sitting and using a tablet or laptop is this blanket that shields you from 99.9% of the radiation: https://www.bellyarmor.com/belly-blanket/